I had no idea this was going to be so difficult. (Most of the comments on my question have been so far over my head as to be impenetrable.)
OK, so I S-S to outside partner, so far both steps are identical (I think). Then, if I want to do a quarter turn, my left foot goes forward and slightly left (Q) then my right foot closes (Q) and I am back in closed position ready to go backwards S-S. If going into a grapevine, my left foot goes pretty much left (is this where the difference starts?)Q and my right foot goes slightly back and to the left, behind my right foot Q. So that was my best shot at identifying where the steps depart from one another. But I would still like to get some expert advice (that is relevant to my level and question - I might actually love a "silver twinkle" but I have no idea what one is). Is it that my torso turns to the right LESS for the grapevine than for the quarter turn and that is what I need to point out and/or exagerate for my partner or what? Thank you for the time and attention.